Looking for a bridge over troubled water? Krithvi Shyam, our young psychologist, addresses your worst anxieties.

I am a 20-year-old guy. I was in a relationship with a girl for three months. Tragedy struck when her father unexpectedly passed away due to an illness. She is very depressed and now says that she doesn't want this relationship as she doesn't want to hurt her family. She wants me to get over her and move on with my life, which I can never do. And she did confess to me that she loves me truly. What should I do now?


It’s difficult to end a relationship when you feel you’ve found someone special. But your girlfriend is grieving over her loss, so you need to respect her wishes. Her decision to end the relationship may not be the right one, but to her it feels like the best decision at this point. Even if you convince her to continue the relationship, it’s likely that she will keep having unpleasant feelings of guilt over hiding it from her mother. She has told you to move on, and this doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to start hunting for another girlfriend. Stay single for a while and see where it takes you. You are young and have your whole life ahead of you. Who knows, maybe you and this girl will get back together in six months. Or perhaps you will meet someone new. Keep an open mind for the future, and let your current girlfriend know that after you break up, she still has your support as a friend.

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