I entirely agree with the views expressed in the article “Pomp and show to the fore, blood and sweat beneath” (Open Page, Feb. 20) on the need to celebrate marriages in a simple manner. I am a civil service aspirant and I tell my mother to keep all social ceremonies simple. But my mother insists on celebrating my marriage in a colourful manner. There are many things that are more important than lavish marriages and gatherings. But our people seem to enjoy lavish ceremonies. I think one reason people are reluctant to change their ways is criticism by relatives.
Simranjit Singh,
Ludhiana
After spending most of their resources on their daughters' marriages, many parents feel dried up financially. For the rituals that follow, they are driven to borrow money which lands them in debts. Although many young men are generous and say “no” to ostentatious celebrations, women coerce their parents into performing lavish weddings. Affluent parents should come forward to conduct the marriages of their sons and daughters in a simple manner, setting an example to others.
Radhika Kannan,
Karaikudi
People belonging to the middle class and lower middle class can avoid the so-called “reception” and conduct only the marriage. It should be attended by relatives, friends and office colleagues.
They can be served either breakfast or lunch, depending on the time. This arrangement will reduce the marriage cost considerably.
Krithika Chidambaram,
Chennai
A wedding is a family function. The expenses can be reduced if the guests are limited to the minimum. Only those connected to the families of the bride and the groom should be invited.
Invitees, too, should think twice before attending a wedding. Unless they know the families well, they should ignore the invitations.
Anu Surya,
Secunderabad
Parents give their children a lot of freedom and spoil them. At the time of marriage, therefore, they demand lavish celebrations. More often, they want to outdo others. Parents should inculcate good values in their children. Only then will the young understand their family background.
Vedula Krishna,
Visakhapatnam
