I'm 16 years old and I have been in a relationship for more than one year now. It went well until my parents and his parents came to know about it. He still keeps in touch with me but I feel guilty that I’m not because I sometimes ignore and resist trying not to be sincere with love because it creates a problem. Due to this I find very difficult to concentrate in my studies. My parents are separated though this is not the reason and hence I’m not sure where I will continue my studies after school. My problem is should I carry on this relationship or focus on studies. I don’t want to ditch my boyfriend nor get low marks.- Miss Frustrated
As a school student, if you’re trying to decide between your studies – present and future - and your relationship, there should be no question about which comes first. Like Tennyson’s eponymous brook, boyfriends and girlfriends may come and go, but an education is something that will last forever. You are under enough pressure to cope with your studies and your parents’ separation. Trying to manage a secret relationship is only going to make things harder for you. Breaking up might not seem like the right decision at this time, but it will probably be the best decision, since your relationship is starting to influence areas beyond its scope, e.g.: your own relationship with your parents and your interest in higher studies.
I have just finished my Std XII exams. For the past two years, I have been attracted to my teacher who is 15 years older than me. Though my mind accepts that it is purely an infatuation, but my heart is not able to overcome it. I always think of him, even though I know it is impossible. I want to forget him and lead a normal life. Please advise. - So Confused
A lot of people have crushes on their teachers in school and college; it’s perfectly normal and nothing to feel bad about! The bad news is, the most tried and test method of getting rid of infatuations is time. However, the good news is, you’ve just finished your 12 grade. So, the memories of your teacher are still fresh in your mind now, but once you start college, they are sure to subside. Start concentrating on enjoying your holidays and applying to universities; soon you’ll be able to look back at this time with a sense of humour.
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