Looking for a bridge over troubled water? Krithvi Shyam, our young psychologist, addresses your worst anxieties.
A boy moved into my apartment almost a year back. I never really took notice of him, but two months ago when my friend introduced me to him, he took me by surprise. He didn’t seem like other guys who always ran behind girls and he gave me this look, almost like he knew me from before. He seemed to know my name before he met me; he told my friend that it was through Facebook. For some reason, from that day, I can’t seem to stop thinking about him. I have already dreamed about him thrice, and I keep going to his Facebook profile, even though I tell myself not to do it. I don’t want to fall in love with someone to whom I’ve barely spoken two lines, and also because I’d sworn not to fall in love after a recent break-up. I always seem to have thoughts of putting up photos on Facebook of us hanging out together, going on dates and having fun. It sounds weird, but this is how much this guy has affected me. What do I do?
It’s slightly creepy that he more or less admitted to Facebook-stalking you within seconds of you meeting each other, I’m just saying. Anyway, as you’ve discovered, there are no sure-shot ways of getting over a crush. If you’re open to dating, there’s nothing wrong with striking up a conversation with him and trying to get to know him better. But if it doesn’t sound like he’s interested, hide him from your feed (or even delete him — if he’s the type whose Friends list runs into the thousands, it’s likely he won’t notice) to rid yourself of the temptation to stalk him, and start looking around at all the other fish in the sea. If you’re not interested in dating, then deactivate your account for a few weeks. Chances are, when you get back online, you’d have forgotten what he looks like.