When Aarti Boaz realised her two teenage boys had a 10-day break from school last summer, she immediately started browsing travel portals. Soon the Chennai-based educationist had booked a flight to Madagascar, courtesy a “very good deal” on a full-fare airline. “We had a window of 12 hours to plan, pack and catch the flight,” recalls Boaz, who booked hotels on the go while reading up on the East African island nation. “We went in blind, knowing little to nothing about the country,” she says, adding, “Madagascar turned out to be lovely.”
Family vacations usually involve months-long planning, juggling work and school schedules, and activities for everyone. But Boaz is among a new crop of mothers who don’t put their travelling plans on hold until their children are older and craft child-friendly travel itineraries instead.
Pune-based Deenaz Raisinghani has been to more than eight countries with her four-year-old, starting when the child was 16 months old. “Having a baby or a husband/partner with a busy work schedule [hers is in the Army] should not stop you from travelling,” says the blogger. A sentiment Boaz agrees with. “Being a single parent, I didn’t want to put off my interests. Instead, I included my children in them. I look at these trips as education for my sons and empowerment for me.”
Learnings on the go
For many of these mums, travel is not just about sightseeing, but a chance to expose their children to both cultural and culinary diversity. “During our visit to Barcelona last year, I tried to get my daughter to sample freshly-caught octopus at a local food market. She refused at first, because of its texture, but after a little persuasion, she took a bite and loved the taste,” says Raisinghani.
![Mekha Rajan (left) and her son during their trip to Bhutan. Mekha Rajan (left) and her son during their trip to Bhutan.](/theme/images/th-online/1x1_spacer.png)
Mekha Rajan (left) and her son during their trip to Bhutan.
For others, holidays are also a means to explore a common passion. Actor Mekha Rajan’s trips are aligned with her 11-year-old son’s interests. Arya’s passion for cycling has had them heading to Bhutan for an expedition on wheels in 2018, and last June, his love for Lego found them in Legoland Billund, the original Legoland park in Denmark. “Though we travel together, the trips are also about creating our own spaces. I let him interact with fellow travellers, especially children, and give him his own space,” says Chennai-based Rajan, who has travelled to 15 countries with him. She credits these experiences for giving Arya the confidence to fly solo within India. “He knows how to read the gate, when to board, and how to plan ahead. He is not intimidated by anyone and talks to people from other countries about the things he likes, such as cars and bikes,” she says.
Cheat sheet
Of course, solo parent trips take a great deal of planning. Boaz is constantly on the lookout for cheap flight deals on full-fare airlines because “budget airlines can con you”. Finding child-friendly accommodation is equally important. “If there is a long layover, I split the journey into two and stay at the transit destination for a couple of days, to get my daughter comfortable,” says Raisinghani. “If you’re travelling with a toddler, a bed-and-breakfast with a communal kitchen works well.”
![Aarti Boaz at the island of Murano in Venice
Aarti Boaz at the island of Murano in Venice](/theme/images/th-online/1x1_spacer.png)
Aarti Boaz at the island of Murano in Venice
For hotels, the mums recommend staying in the heart of the city since it is safer to wander at night, and also cuts down on travel costs. Opt for shuttle services wherever available, and look up access to transport options at odd hours, especially to the airport, suggests Boaz, who found Flixbus in Europe — which runs point-to-point services between 2,000 destinations across 28 countries.
Facing the unexpected
Sometimes, even the most planned trips can have unexpected glitches. Boaz and her boys have run the last mile to catch a ferry in Athens and overslept at a departure terminal. “Instead of panicking, look for a safe option,” says Boaz, recalling a trip to Florence in 2016. “We missed the train from Zurich to Florence. When we reached the hotel, it was pouring and our booking had been cancelled. All the hotels in the vicinity were booked out. Luckily, the front desk manager at one of them was kind enough to call another hotel just 100 metres away and get us a room,” she says.
Such experiences have also prepared her for the unexpected. “When we step out of the hotel, we take a small carry-on with a change of clothes and snacks. I tell my boys that if we get separated, to stay in the same place so we can find each other, or approach a policeman. I ensure they have an emergency fund in case such a situation arises,” she concludes.
![Deenaz Raisinghani in Barcelona
Deenaz Raisinghani in Barcelona](/theme/images/th-online/1x1_spacer.png)
Deenaz Raisinghani in Barcelona
Kids on board
Aakanksha Bhargava, CEO of Gurugram-based PM Relocations, who has travelled to six countries with her 18-month-old daughter, advises planning flights around a child’s sleep schedule. “I try to make sure she sleeps while travelling so she is less cranky.” She also suggests sticking to a daily routine of bath and feeding. For former VJ and cookbook author Maria Goretti, it is all about getting her teenaged children to connect with nature. “Maldives is our happy place, and my wishlist includes Machu Picchu, the Everest base camp and Ladakh. I usually want to see everything on a trip and do a lot of research. But when I am travelling with my kids, I prefer it to be a free-flowing holiday. I just let them be and hope they observe and learn,” she says, adding, “I like remote places with little to no communication. We’ve been deep-sea diving in the Andamans where we had huge sharks swim beneath us, and in Kerala, we heard the sawing call of a leopard. [Vacations like that] rejuvenate your body, mind and soul.”