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Rajkumar

Every profession has peculiar demands that can cast a shadow over family life. But, when a couple is in the same profession, the spouse who cancels an evening out with the family for a work-related emergency can expect forgiveness.

Chitrakala

In one respect, being a doctor and being married to a doctor is an unenviable state. As I’m a doctor too, I can’t even protest when he sacrifices a family outing for an unforeseen call of duty.

Rajkumar

When she had to choose a post-graduate programme in Medicine, she avoided specialties that would require her to work long hours, and leave her too drained for quality time with our children. A decision with great foresight, I should say, because it was taken before our two children arrived.

Chitrakala

When we migrated to the U.K., we fell into a pattern. He would find a job, and then I would try to find one for myself in the same area — so that we could stay together.

Rajkumar

Balancing work and family was quite a challenge; it still is. In fact, life is a series of balancing acts.

Work and hobby, family and friends, parents and parents-in-law; the list goes on. You have to carry everyone along with you. It is an advantage that her father and mine are doctors. They assist us in running our hospitals.

Chitrakala

As his work is highly exacting, and requires him to be absent from home, I switched to an administrative role. That way, I could be there for the children in the evenings. My job involves wading through a pile of vouchers, and explaining to him that his lofty ideas can damage the hospitals’ financial health.

Rajkumar

While I am the wings, she is the wheels. When I am about to take off on an ambitious flight, she often grounds me in reality. I do not give in to her reasoning without a fight. Shouting matches across the board table are not uncommon. Sometime ago, I was keen on an expansion project in Vizag, which she opposed tooth and nail. After repeated and heated arguments, we proceeded to sit calmly and list out the pros and cons. I veered around to her view that it was not the right time for expansion.

Chitrakala

Take any organisation — the people holding the purse-strings will often be at loggerheads with those dealing with ideas.

As the relationship between these groups is bound to be an uneasy one, I don't take our fights at work too personally.

Rajkumar

After a harsh exchange of words, it is difficult to walk into the sunset, locking hands. I think men find it more difficult to shrug off the rancour. Women tend to compartmentalise things a lot better.

Women who run institutions with their husbands don't carry over any bitterness at work. Men should learn this art from them.

As told to PRINCE FREDERICK

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