EDUCATION PLUS

Parenting with prupose

Tender touch: Choose specific goals for children at various stages as their age progresses.

Tender touch: Choose specific goals for children at various stages as their age progresses.   | Photo Credit: Photo: Nagara Gopal

This African story is about a grandfather, who was talking to his grandson about his life experiences. "I feel as if I have two wolves always fighting in my heart. One wolf is vengeful, angry and violent. The other wolf is compassionate and loving." "Which wolf wins the fight?" asked the grandson and the grandfather answered, "The one I feed."

Young children have a continuously running internal conversation, assessing and judging themselves, both positively and negatively. "If children think that they will do poorly, then they probably will. A responsible parent develops positive messages that in turn promote success" says educational psychologist Dr. Phil McGraw. Choose specific goals for children at various stages as their age progresses. It includes not only choosing, but communicating and perusing them, depending on the child's interests, skills and abilities. without thrusting them forcefully.

Negotiate carefully. Put forth your point, pay attention to theirs, step into their shoes to understand, narrow the area of dispute, find out what is best, be convinced truthfully and convince them with the decision tenderly. Instead of developing positive behaviour, some parents always look at the undesirable deeds of the child and react.

If you are watching the idiot box for hours in the nights, how can you expect your child to read in the next room? Through your actions, words, behaviour and love, you can direct your children to where you want them to go. Show them how to be happy, well-balanced and fulfilled adults, shedding the negative attitudes, by dumping self-destructive behaviour patterns and turning up the positive attitudes. Do you know that the more you spend time with your children, they disassociate with distractions like TV, cell phone, video games etc? Here are some funny but intelligent examples to engage them. Encourage them to write in a comic manner the top five priorities of each member of the family, where they are failing, and areas where time is being wasted by them. Let them point out three best qualities of your spouse the three qualities that they don't like in you.

YANDAMOORI VEERENDRANATH

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