On fathers

I thank The Hindu for publishing the article “Are dads dispensable commodities?” (Open Page, June 19). It is time India reformed the law and court procedures dealing with divorce. Fathers have had to fight for decades in western countries to get courts and social workers to accept that both parents are equally important in a child's life. If you have never had your family broken, and your children alienated and brainwashed against you by the other parent, you will never understand what the fathers who have lost their parental rights are talking about. It has been found in hundreds of studies that children raised in single-parent households do poorer in health, emotional expression, academics, and happiness, and are far more likely to take to crime. All governments should legislate presumptive equal parenting. Any divorce discussion should start with equal parenting, and if it is unequal the court must give a substantial reason.

Clarence Maloney,


The number of single parent families is on the increase. Many liberal minded women seem to think that their husbands are dispensable for not only themselves but also their children. They thereby deny their children a natural right. An accessible father is necessary for the emotional and personality development of children.

Matthew Adukanil,


The articles about fathers made me realise the void in my childhood. I was brought up by my mother since I was in class one. She took such good care of me that I never felt the need for a father. My father never came to meet me although there was nothing stopping him. Child custody should be seen as a social, not legal, issue.

S. Nithesh,


This refers to the article “We miss you, may there be more fathers like you” (Open Page, June 19). My college was 7 km away from Tambaram, Chennai. For one month, I managed to take a free lift from my friends. I then requested my father for an old bicycle. He approached a local mechanic and asked him to assemble one for me with the available spares. It cost him around Rs.75 in the 1970s. He told the mechanic to give him a cycle that had just two wheels and pedals. Again, during my under-graduation, I managed without books for two years. In the third year, I requested my father to spare Rs.100 to buy old books. He obliged without hesitation in spite of the poor conditions we lived in.

S.P. Kumar,


Every day, I think of my father who sacrificed the best part of his life for us. He worked in the British-owned plantations in Kerala, leading a solitary life while my mother and we, six children, lived in comfort at Thiruvaiyaru with the hard-earned money he remitted. I often wonder what we gave him in return.

R. Somasundaram,


Fathers always wish the best for their children. They guide us by their simple, logical and practical thinking, which makes them our role models and heroes. We can feel their warmth and love even when we are far away from them.

C.K. Gajalakshmi,


On reading the article, I was reminded of my father who was a station master in a wayside station in the erstwhile CP & Berar state. He too used to do things Ravi Chitrapu's father did. In winter, as soon as a train pulled into the station, he used to send us to the engine driver to bring hot water for household work. In those days, people had to be frugal. They devised many ways to avoid unnecessary expenses. My father used to sharpen his razor in a hurricane lamp chimney by putting ash in it and rubbing vigorously before he shaved.

K. Nehru Patnaik,


It is the mothers who enjoy the prime place of importance in families. The father is indeed the unsung hero. As soon as children grow up and settle down in their lives, they are ready to kick the ladder that was ably supported by their fathers. Fathers are like anchors in families and sacrifice their career and everything to bring up their children. But they are treated as ATM machines by their children.

P. Poovalingam,


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