‘101 Secrets of Effective Parenting’ tackles issues
Compared to your son’s room, a pigsty is neater. He can’t locate his school books — not that he cares. Every time the report card arrives, you know it is time for one more visit to the principal’s cabin. Your son is allergic to text books, but is a regular at the local library. Or, he is working on a sensor-driven contraption that sends a warning message to your mobile every time the house gate is opened. As he is busy doing his own thing, he is way behind in studies.
You are understandably worried about the boy’s future. Will he make good? Yes, says G. Vidyashankar of OnlySuccess, which conducts personal transformation programmes. Provided, you tune in to the boy’s unique personality and his needs. He then goes on to explain that such children are driven more by the right brain. They may not be as logical in their thinking or meticulous in academic pursuits as left-brained children. But they are in no way inferior. Children in both categories have their pluses and minuses, and it is up to the parents to guide them in pursuits that suit their dispositions.
With such positive advice, Vidyashankar’s ‘101 Secrets of Effective Parenting’ (Macmillan) is just the book for those looking for clues to good parenting. Divided into 101 themes, the book tackles many issues — from sibling rivalry, peer influence, hyperactivity, exam fear, memory lapses, image formation and slow learning.
In one of the chapters, Vidyashankar asks the parent if he will be happy to take on additional work at office if he knows he won’t be rewarded or appreciated for it. For your child, studies is unrewarding work. Parents should not bribe (“A bicycle for you, if you score centum in mathematics!”) the child to study well. Instead, they have to explain how his life will be enriched by a good academic record. Difficult yes, but there is no other way, says Vidyashankar.
On sibling rivalry, the book warns parents from making the situation worse than it is. Not just brothers, but any two human beings “living under the same roof and sharing the same resources” are bound to have conflicts and misunderstandings. More than trying to treat all their children equally, parents should focus on meeting each child’s individual needs.
At the end of every chapter is revealed a ‘secret’, which sums up the whole chapter in a sentence or two, and is meant to be a memory point.
The book should hold out hope for parents who have begun to think they are just two among the many people in their child’s life. If they did the right things, they can get back their rightful place ahead of others. For details, visit www.onlysuccess.net.PRINCE FREDERICK