With long hours at work, how do couples in the IT and ITES sectors make their marriage work? GEETA PADMANABHAN finds outIn a dancing economy, our young couples don't want to miss anything money, career, opportunities and kids. And they come at a price. "At 25, I have two cars and a house. At 40, I can start a business of my own. My parents couldn't dream of it." It's having your life and spending it too! But at what cost? Read about these contemporary stories. Rhonda and Jacob:He was why she joined a BPO. But different departments, different shifts and Jacob's longer hours aren't conducive for a fairytale saga. "We try constantly for opportunities to be together," confessed Rhonda. "When we break off from calls, we rush to the cafeteria for a quick bite. A lot of romancing is done over the phone." Anupama and Rajesh Nair:They met (on the corridors?) when they were doing different shifts. Now a weekend couple, she clocks from noon to midnight, he from 3 a.m. to 3 p.m. During weekdays he gets to see her, sleeping. "We leave each other Post-it notes. "Raj, have you paid the bill?" Not completely unromantic, though. I always add, "I love you" so he'll do the job. If I'm home when he returns, he says, "Can you put in the papers and do this every day?" Kashma and Ravi Raju:She reports at 10.30 a.m., returns at 8 p.m., he's a 2 p.m. - 2 a.m. guy. "Our timings are natural family planners," he says, not happy at the way they're bonding. "There's no quality time spent together. But we're determined to make our marriage work." Veena and Yogesh:Veena has Saturdays off, but tags along to be with Yogesh. He waits four hours to have lunch together at a café. "You will find us at night shows. Or hanging out at Spencer's. We have a free corporate SIM card for "sweet nothings." Divya and Karthick:Were part of a BPO team. Quit, joined an IT major, got married. Worked shifts for six months, she, from 6 p.m. to 3 a.m. and he, from 4 a.m. to 1p.m. Had different off days. It was unreal. It still is. Shuba Rangarajan:Not when you work 20 hours, seven days to meet targets? It won't help your promotion prospects to be found loafing around. So you stay less distracted. Anupama:Our mobile conversations go like, "Can we talk?" "No yaar, call you back." Murphy's law is at work here. When one calls, the other is always at a meeting. Yogesh:I miss the kitchen romance. I need my morning tea but I wake her up with black tea to prepare mine! Life is a constant juggle between sleep and time together. Divya:BPO romance is all about time, opportunity and chemistry. May be we're breaking free of parental shackles on romance. Of course, you need to work the same shift to fall in love.
We make it work!