Many college-going women are tying the knot rather early
If you are among those who think that college-going girls are always hanging out with their friends and generally leading a carefree life, then you are in for a shock. Jeans-clad, Gen Y girls are getting married in the first and second year of college.
The reasons for this are many. Even though women’s education is given importance, the social and familial roles of a girl are still defined as a wife and mother. In many families, good education and career are considered less important than finding a suitable marriage proposal. Michelle, a 23-year-old lecturer says: “I’m dead against this practice, and I think early marriages happen when parents have orthodox mindsets and consider daughters a liability.” The legal marriageable age for girls in India is 18, a crucial stage in a person’s life when she has to concentrate on her education and career. Mohan Mangathussery, father of a 19-year-old strongly believes that girls should become more mature and financially independent before they tie the knot. “What if the marriage falls apart? I would want my daughter to have something to fall back on in such a case,” he says.
But there are others who feel education and marriage can go together. Yasmin, a third-year degree student who is expecting her first child says: “My family is extremely supportive, and I’ll definitely continue my studies.”
There are other bigger problems associated with early marriages. A person at this age hasn’t the maturity to take decisions on important matters. Adjusting to a new family atmosphere and arranging your life around another person is no child’s play.
These are the girls who, with or without parental consent, get married to the ‘man of their dreams’. Most girls confuse real life with movie-style matrimonial bliss.
If you feel that you’ve really found ‘the one’ for you quite early in life, wait a few years before saying ‘I do’. If he is the right one, a few years won’t make any difference. But if he’s not, it will make all the difference in the world. So, all of you girls out there, think before you leap, and say “no” when you need to.NIDHI SURENDRANATH
NANDINI M. THILAK