Knowingly or unknowingly, we constantly interact with our surroundings, people… They largely determine our behaviour
At the end of a hectic day at office, Rakesh sits by the window of his living room of his house on the fourth floor. A nightscape blotches into his god’s-eye-view. The lights glint off on the smoggy tapestry.
The skeletal silhouettes of buildings and hills trace the space, weave, and hang across like gossamer fibres. It’s all hushed except for an occasional bark or train whistle in the distance.
The gentle breeze caresses him. Above, the vastness, stars, the moon. “Just sitting here and soaking up the space and the delicious vibes,” the executive in a multi-national company almost mutters adding, “nature in her various moods exudes warmth and affectionate vibes. It’s for us to feel them. When I sit here, not consciously making an effort to think, great ideas flit across my mind. Moreover, this is my sweet spot of security. In this mind-boggling flux of people, events, technologies and what not, we need to have a cosy feeling of being secure, anchored to our roots.”
You go to a party, a college whoopee or a friend’s house, you feel the unknown, unfathomable vibes – vibes that make you happy, sad or irritable. It’s a feel. We always interact with our surroundings whether we know it or not. People and places exude vibes that launch a lasting friendship, or turn an existing one off-kilter.
Vibes in workplace can have effects that can mess with one’s mind.
“I sometimes feel edgy and anxious for no apparent reason,” says Avinash, who works for a glitzy corporate office. In his office where every talk and every gesture revolves around monthly targets and performance, ‘nerviness cuts through the room like a knife.’ Added to this, the very place feels impersonal, “not really connecting with each other, rowing my own boat my own way. You find people and their vibes influencing you in unknown ways,” he adds.
Being out of wavelength – of whatever amplitude it is – with colleagues drains many employees.
“I don’t really connect with everybody in my office,” admits Venkatesh, a computer programmer who has a knack of wading through emotional cul-de-sacs.
“Many a time my friendship goes haywire, it’s not that my friends are rude or whatever, they are decent people. But, that’s the way it is.” It’s a crapshoot to whether you connect with somebody or not.
For the visceral feel of bonhomie, this bunch of final year engineering grads, makes a beeline to a chai shop down the street. Old, decrepit wooden benches lend a grungy charm.
Waft of kerosene, tea and dust strikes the nostrils and the place oozes the vibe of both rambunctious and relaxing.
“We feel free here. There’s no pressure of assignments or project works,” says Pradeep. “This place has a quality that connects you viscerally,” chips in his friend Lokesh adding: “It’s okay to be crazy after every short while.” The boys meet here and bounce off ideas to each other.
“We are suckers for this chai and the vibe,” confesses Hari. Ram Babu, who flunked tenth standard but is deeply educated nevertheless and whose sensitivity to surroundings far exceeds that of the most sophisticated Richter scale, talks like a shaman: “A growing plant or an ancient tree sends it’s vibes. Let’s open our hearts to them.”G.B.S.N.P. VARMA