The days of Mr. Pink Whistle’s parties are long gone. At a time when greed is good, parents are throwing the glitziest dos for their teenagers, writes NEETI SARKAR
While we know that today’s teenager will not settle for anything less than an iPod for their birthday, we also see parents going all out to make sure their child’s party is the biggest affair in town.
The days of high teas, small family gatherings and games like musical chairs have faded into oblivion. Now it is cool to throw a terrace party or one at a resort or club, complete with a zillion-course meal, mousse and vodka.
If you were left gob-smacked when you watched an episode of Vh1’s “Sweet 16”, and thought that lavish parties for teens were only thrown abroad, think again as desi teens are definitely not lagging behind.
Ruby Karat, an 18-year-old, who recently celebrated her birthday at a club on the outskirts of the city says, “Parties at home and with family are completely outdated. Even our parents are open and very supportive. In fact, it was my parents who planned my party and it was the best I’ve had till date.”
According to Subhash Nambiar, another collegian, “Since the city night-life deadline is cruel, the best way to enjoy ourselves is to throw a nice big private party away from the city. You can dine and dance as much as you want, without having anybody to stop you.”
“When you want to throw a mega party and have the resources as well as the support of your parents, you have the recipe for a rocking party,” says 16-year-old Medha Gopalan.
Shaheed Karachiwala, a parent asserts, “One does not host big parties to flaunt one’s status. Parents do not expect their children to accept the conventional way of doing things. In fact, today’s parent would rather be a part of his child’s glamorous party because he wants to be a friend to his child.”
Club owner Hareesh Singh points out that “Every week there are at least three teen parties hosted at the club and there is almost never a time when parents are not a part of the gathering. People are making money and need to do something with it. Throwing a huge party for their children is one way of unconventional splurging.”
Sociologist Sushil Chandranath is of the opinion that “In recent times, parents are more clued in and aware of what their children are up to. They are sometimes even aware of who their child is dating. The new age mantra for parenting is to be accessible rather than risk being perceived as being too traditional, narrow-minded or unapproachable.”
According to psychologist Shruthi Ahluwalia, “It isn’t only the adolescent is confused. Even parents go through identity crises. As much as they need to be firm as parents, they want to be flexible as a friend. Parents do not want to distance their children from them and therefore go out of their way to give their children the best gifts and the most glamorous parties.”
Whatever be the reason for people throwing huge parties, a few things are for sure.
Club owners are making hefty profits, parents have found a new way to keep their children happy and all those who are invited to these sophisticated glitzy dos seize the opportunity to have a ball.