People say teenagers are no good. They make too much noise in shops; they drive recklessly up and down the streets; and they carry big chips on their shoulders. And at times, some of these things are true. But there are also hard moments in the life of a teenager.
A teenager is neither a lovely child, nor a respectable grown up person. The members of her family consider a teenager a source of trouble. She feels that she has grown up. But she is told that she is just a child and she knows nothing. She sees her elders doing what they like. When she wants to do what she likes, the elders tell her that she should do only what she is told to do.
To be a teenager means to be everybody's servant and nobody's master. Elders in the family and in the neighbourhood, order a teenager to run errands for them. If he refuses to carry out the orders of his elders, he is rebuked. He may even be punished. He is criticised for all that he says and does. If he behaves like a child, he is told that he is grown up and that he should not be childish. If he behaves like a grown up man, he is told that he is disrespectful.
A teenager becomes a lonely creature in the family. Children enjoy all the love of the elders in the family. The teenager gets no love and no respect. So she often runs away from home and finds some joy in the company of the girls of her age.
There are no hearts as delicate as those of the teenagers because everything is happening to them for the first time. And despite their swaggering charm and flippant commentary, teenagers are scared about what to think, to say or to feel.
The trouble with teenagers is that they haven't learnt to be controlled. Living life right down the middle, with all its attendant land mine is all we know. It hasn't yet occurred to us to run a zigzag pattern. Although we teenagers have a miserable time with our family members and elders, we have a jolly good time with our friends and in schools and colleges. So we teenagers spend most of our good time and have fun with our friends and classmates than with parents.
Nissad S S, XII
Thiruvananthapuram: A R R Public School
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