Mrs. Sen wouldn’t have her dinner until I came back. She nursed me when I fell ill. She didn’t throw me out when I lost my job.
My house-hunting experience in Kolkata and New Delhi is no different from the accounts published in The Hindu dated July 8, 2012, but my frantic search for the elusive roof over my head in Kolkata many years ago had a rather happy ending.
But before I tell the happy story, let me recount the harrowing time I had in the capital and former capital in 2000 and the 1980s respectively. The Hindu’s reportage shows that nothing has changed in three decades, and probably never will!
I arrived in Delhi in 2000 to work for South China Morning Post. My rent budget was Rs 25,000 but not a single Hindu landlord would have me. Ultimately I lived in two flats; first in Noida and then in Panchsheel Park. Both landlords were Muslims. The apartment in Noida’s Jalvayu Vihar belonged to a Bombay Mercantile Bank officer. The Panchsheel Park flat was owned by a former DESU chief engineer. I inspected a flat in Zakir Bagh owned by a former Bengal Governor, A. R. Kidwai’s son, and a flat belonging to Syed Shahabuddin’s daughter in Mayur Vihar’s IFS Apartments.
Both were mine for the asking but I preferred the Panchsheel Park as it was close to the Chittaranjan Park market crucial for my fish supplies — I’m a Bengali by nature, thank you.
But Delhi didn’t shock me too much because of the bulk of my previous house-hunting experience in Kolkata. I studied in a cosmopolitan institution, St. Xavier’s College, and lived in the college hostel. After graduation, I started looking for accommodation at Ballygunge and New Alipore. I drew a blank. The closest I came to sealing a deal was a landlord’s thoughtful pre-condition that I should assume a Hindu name before moving in.
I consulted my one and only guru S. P. Singh [editor of Ravivar, Nav Bharat Times and Aajtak’s founder]. SP remarked that the landlord was a good man but the locality was clearly a minefield!
Then, by a stroke of sheer good luck, I met Anita Sen. She didn’t have a flat to let out; she lived in a three-bedroom apartment at New Alipore and wanted a paying guest. My religion didn’t bother her. But she had one condition: No booze or girlfriend. I promptly agreed. She was exactly my mother’s age. Her husband had passed away; she lived with her two sons. I had a room to myself. We ate in the dining room. I had access to the drawing room too where there was a telephone.
Mrs. Sen wouldn’t have her dinner until I came back. She would cook rice and heat the food while I took a shower after a hard day’s work. She nursed me when I fell ill. She didn’t throw me out when I lost my job and was unable to make the monthly payment that we had agreed upon. In fact, she lent me money when I was in dire straits.
I landed a better job. One morning, hesitantly I called her Ma instead of Mrs. Sen. “Wah beta” she replied and darted to the kitchen to make me another cup of tea. When my father came visiting from Varanasi, I said: Papa, this is Ma. I smiled but they burst out laughing. We lived on the ground floor. The brother of Ma’s late husband lived upstairs. Eight years after my arrival, they decided to sell the house and share the proceeds.
A proud owner
After the sale, Ma, her two sons and I moved into a Times of India flat in New Alipore. I was working for Illustrated Weekly those days and was entitled to a company flat. When Ma booked a flat in a nearby apartment block under construction, she told me to book one too. But I didn’t have the funds to even contemplate purchasing a flat in such a posh locality. Ma solved the problem by quietly lending me Rs. 1 lakh in 1990. My flat cost slightly over Rs. 5 lakh. I tapped my provident fund and also took a loan from LIC. But primarily because of Ma’s affection-cum-generosity — she said I could repay at leisure — I became the proud owner of an apartment next to hers in upscale New Alipore!
(The author is Deputy Editor of Outlook. He won a United Nations award for breaking the Bhagalpur blindings story. Email: snmabdi @yahoo.com)
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Excellent,live lovable narration,to read.May god bless more women,not necessarily
landladies ,with such humanity.Thanks to Mr Abdicate for bringing out the good Samaritan
mother to limelight
What a beautiful story! Made for a lovely read. God grant us Indians more and more Mrs. Anita Sens.
Thanks to Mr. Abdi for sharing his bitter sweet house hunting stories. I hope the the other instance where the Kolkata landlord had asked him to assume a pseudo name was not a Bengali otherwise it is a blot on the Bengali community. Mrs. Anita Sen represent the true Bengali 'bhadramohila' that one would expect and many thanks to her for upholding the proud 'live and let-live' culture of Bengal!
What a heart-touching story. I hope not all of that goodness/kindness is
lost to us now.
The moral of this story is that strangers are better than relatives and friends. Such incidents are not normal. The giver in this case is the gracious elderly with a very large heart, as vast as the pacific ocean. The taker is the writer in the case, who wants a shelter, and he is in a position to enjoy the hospitality of the elderly lady for a long period, and finally ends up with
A gift of a house as well. It appears to me that this lady is the superior force in human form. I have heard a similar case earlier. Late K.P.Kesava Menon( former editor of Mathrubhumi) has narrated his experience in his book NAM MUNNOTTU). I would say, the writer is blessed. We should make full use, when we are in a position to show goodness to others. Such opportunities may not come again. Some times you will regret, that you have missed the bus to help others in life. If we help others in life, some times strangers might help us In return as well. Abdi. An excellent story.
Mr.Abdi has portrayed a good samaritan of a land lady very eloquently. Ms.Anita Sen deserves a National Award for being a model land lady free from any prejudice. The media should invite contributions from readers and writers of such experiences which are exemplary rather than pain a dismal picture of the prejudices which exist in our secular society exercising age old biases while letting out on rent any flat mainly in urban areas. As a country we are not as bad as the media projects us to be. It is the politicians who have to shed their vote catching parochial methods of segregating the people according to caste,creed or religion to preserve their vote banks. The 21st century is already witnessing a sea change in attitude with young men and women having the courage to make their own choices in choosing their life partners and landlords are compelled to be tolerant in their attitude towards new tenants else they would not be able to get any tenant of their prescription.
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