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Updated: August 1, 2010 00:43 IST

Life can begin at 60, it is all in your hands!

S. Ramachandran
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Many people feel unhappy, health-wise and security-wise, after 60 years of age owing to the diminishing importance given to them and their opinion. But it need not be so, if only we understand the basic principles of life and follow them scrupulously. Here are ten mantras to age gracefully and make life after retirement pleasant.

1. Never say ‘I am aged': There are three ages, chronological, biological, and psychological. The first is calculated based on our date of birth; the second is determined by the health conditions and the third is how old you feel you are. While we don't have control over the first, we can take care of our health with good diet, exercise and a cheerful attitude. A positive attitude and optimistic thinking can reverse the third age.

2. Health is wealth: If you really love your kith and kin, taking care of your health should be your priority. Thus, you will not be a burden to them. Have an annual health check-up and take the prescribed medicines regularly. Do take health insurance cover.

3. Money is important: Money is essential for meeting the basic necessities of life, keeping good health and earning family respect and security. Don't spend beyond your means even for your children. You have lived for them all through and it is time you enjoyed a harmonious life with your spouse. If your children are grateful and they take care of you, you are blessed. But never take it for granted.

4. Relaxation and recreation: The most relaxing and recreating forces are a healthy religious attitude, good sleep, music and laughter. Have faith in God, learn to sleep well, love good music and see the funny side of life.

5. Time is precious: It is almost like holding a horse's reins. When they are in your hands, you can control them. Imagine that everyday you are born again. Yesterday is a cancelled cheque. Tomorrow is a promissory note. Today is ready cash — use it profitably. Live this moment.

6. Change is the only permanent thing: We should accept change — it is inevitable. The only way to make sense out of change is to join the dance. Change has brought about many pleasant things. We should be happy that our children are blessed.

7. Enlightened selfishness: All of us are basically selfish. Whatever we do, we expect something in return. We should definitely be grateful to those who stood by us. But our focus should be on the internal satisfaction and happiness we derive by doing good to others, without expecting anything in return.

8. Forget and forgive: Don't be bothered too much about others' mistakes. We are not spiritual enough to show our other cheek when we are slapped in one. But for the sake of our own health and happiness, let us forgive and forget them. Otherwise, we will be only increasing our BP.

9. Everything has a purpose: Take life as it comes. Accept yourself as you are and also accept others for what they are. Everybody is unique and right in his own way.

10. Overcome the fear of death: We all know that one day we have to leave this world. Still we are afraid of death. We think that our spouse and children will be unable to withstand our loss. But the truth is no one is going to die for you; they may be depressed for some time. Time heals everything and they will carry on.

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The write up is very good, it shows how a senior member of the family can live happilly within the family. No need to go the old age home. I have found it is good to crush the barrier of age first. I make friends with my grandson, grandsons of my neighbours. I interact with others by participating in the discussions in several blogs some which are in Western countries. I go the Nasa website, actively participate on online screen trading in NSE india. All these are avenues to keep myself involved with surrounding. When I feel tired I simply listen to the old songs of Lata Mangeskar and Md.Rafi.

from:  Basab Roy
Posted on: Sep 7, 2010 at 21:30 IST

The article was written by me. I am delighted that so many people have not only read, but also gained benefits. The additional inputs by the readers are valuable and worthy of emulation. May God bless you.
S.Ramachandran
Age 68.
EMail: srimathi.ram@gmail.com

from:  S.Ramachandran
Posted on: Aug 29, 2010 at 20:57 IST

Thank you Mr.Ramachandran for your fine and thought provoking article. I have read the same again and again and shall try to follow the advice given by you.

from:  A. Kailashnath
Posted on: Aug 6, 2010 at 17:43 IST

Thanks for the useful points in the article. I am 60+ and used to taking a multi-vitamin tablet daily since past 30 years. Perhaps that's the reason even now I feel as energetic & healthy as I was 30 years ago.
Akbar

from:  Akbar Basha
Posted on: Aug 6, 2010 at 15:57 IST

I am 73 years old I am still Active, I am the acting Salary Commissioner, thanks to God I am fit and healthy. People, health is in your hands and how you manage it.

from:  Rajpalsingh Allgoo
Posted on: Aug 6, 2010 at 12:45 IST

Excellent article with a good purpose. Peace of mind that we are searching , fear and anxiety always follow us, The capacity to cope with this situation in old age almost difficult but achievable. Is it necessary to be religious to have peace of mind? Rationalists also required it, I think it is optional.

from:  Kunhalankutty Odakkal
Posted on: Aug 4, 2010 at 17:10 IST

I have to add 2 more mantras to the list.
1.Never give advice unless called for,
2.Stop moral policing inside & outside your house.

from:  S.P.SUBRAMANIAN
Posted on: Aug 4, 2010 at 07:18 IST

Excellent article and very good comments. Suggestions (i) Accept your chronological age, and ensure that your biological and psychological age excel over that benchmark. The process starts when you are in 30's or so. (ii) Balanced diet, exercise and attitude follow the same profile; start early, reap benefits till late, (iii) Remember, you are valued for what you can give without expecting returns. Start with love, mature advice, conflict resolution, etc. (iv) Cultivate solo and group activities; internet is big help; enjoy sustainable activities, e.g. nature, gardening, photography, travel, reading and writing. (iv) Have faith in Him, shed fears, enjoy each sunrise as a bonus. (v) Use money wisely at low key.

from:  Dr. Anil Lyall
Posted on: Aug 4, 2010 at 06:00 IST

To live and let live, the given facts are to be put into practise for one and all.

from:  J.Ramakrishnan
Posted on: Aug 4, 2010 at 01:03 IST

I would add the following. Two basic mental processes at the fag end of one's life are bound to enhance the quality of life. One is accepting death as inevitable and two, preparing oneself as to how to die. The latter amounts to embracing a way of life that will make the self and others happy. A critical component is 'not to lend yourself' to be carried away by a wishful thinking that modern medicine is a panacea and, eventually, deplete the entire family resources, including immovable property. Living a few more weeks or months after being 'fleeced' by corporate hospitals ("we did our best to save", hospitalization may also hasten death) amounts to a tragic end--for the entire family. In some cases leaving behind a legacy of poor life if not poverty for the 'ties that bind', the ones for whom we devoted our life. Alternative systems offer 'a peaceful end'
Anyway, children are not absolved of their caring responsibility.
Coimbatore 38

from:  kaliappan ranga
Posted on: Aug 3, 2010 at 21:24 IST

Excellent leads for a happy retired life. Inputs from readers are also worth following. Ultimately, what we all require is peace of mind. Obviously, we can't search this outside. It has to come from within. The challenge is in embracing the changes. Expecting others - whether spouse, son, daughter or any one else to toe our line of thinking - to talk or behave the way we think right is a tall order these days. To avoid stress, confrontation of any nature should be avoided at any cost - better to move from the scene for the present.

from:  D. Chandramouli
Posted on: Aug 3, 2010 at 17:33 IST

This is a wonderful as well as a meaningful article. I agree wholeheartedly what Mr S. Ramachandran has written. I hope everyone especially people above 60 would read it and benefit from it.

from:  M.Vishnumoorthi
Posted on: Aug 3, 2010 at 12:26 IST

Well said.( Written!)

from:  kripakaran
Posted on: Aug 2, 2010 at 23:14 IST

I am 24 years very young but this piece of great mind really appeals to me which will stay with me throughout my life.Million thanks to Mr. Ramachandran for sharing his crispy and insightful note and The Hindu for publishing the same.The message holds true even for the youngsters too.

from:  Bantee Konthoujam
Posted on: Aug 2, 2010 at 22:12 IST

Ramachnadran Sir's observation are very true
It was a pleasure to read Arul Sir's comments. May God continue to bless you with health wealth and prosperity and may you cross the century mark.
I wish more people would have your outlook on life

from:  Dr Chitra Nagaraj
Posted on: Aug 2, 2010 at 17:52 IST

I am 82 years young and i agree to everything said in the article and I follow the ideas explained therein. God has blessed me with wonderful children, a loving, caring wife and as for health, I had never been on a hospital bed so far. I have enough savings to take care of my needs too. I have a positive outlook, goodwill towards all, spend the days cheerfully, with exercise and long walks, reading. music and cards game and fun and laughter etc. Praise the Lord.

from:  Arul Rayan
Posted on: Aug 2, 2010 at 08:39 IST

Mr S Ramachandran has aptly spoken in this article. Things are not in our way of thinking and our intentions. Accept the fact that others also has a role to act and speak as you act and speak. No one is identical, even if they are your children. Even spouse will retaliate on some of our dormant thoughts, uncherished by children. She always side them most. Always fact remains the occurrence and reactions.

Live happily even in unhappy circumstances. No time is bad and no time is good. It is we who have to dominate our thought process.

B.M. SUBRAMANI
HAL III STAGE
BANGALORE

from:  BM SUBRAMANI
Posted on: Aug 1, 2010 at 20:03 IST

It is very good and those who follow allthese will live very happily. Happiness is of mind only but our bodies have to cooperate wih our mind. I recommend thies points to be popularised among young as well as aged.

from:  M.Boothalingam
Posted on: Aug 1, 2010 at 12:22 IST
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