As women assert their identity and enter his bastions of power, the traditional Indian male is reacting with violence
Even as the world remains shocked and horrified by the gunning down of 20 little children in Newtown, Connecticut, we need to turn some of that shock and horror toward our own selves. The gang rape in the capital of a paramedical student, who lies in critical condition in hospital, should more than just outrage us. Rape is not simply about law and order, or about deranged individuals. Nor is the problem going to be solved by more laws, more police on our streets, more CCTV cameras on our buses or stiffer sentences for rapists. The gang rapes that are occurring with alarming regularity must compel us to reflect upon who we are as a society.
Just like the killing of young innocents is forcing Americans to address the societal reasons for such violence and not just blame one individual, Indians need to understand that gang rape is not just an aberration committed by inhuman men. We need to address how we as a society are implicated in producing such appalling levels of violence against women, which is increasingly being tolerated and even normalised. As women enter the work place and the public arena, their boldness and confidence seem to trigger a sense of insecurity in a society where men are used to being in charge. While it is impossible to reduce the issue of violence to one sole cause, that is men, the fact remains that young men are the ones committing these crimes. These include the 2003 gang rape of a 17-year-old Delhi University student in Buddha Jayanti Park; the Dhaula Kuan gang rape in 2005 in a moving car of a student from Mizoram; and the 2010 gang rape of a young BPO employee from the north-east.
Sense of displacement
We need to inquire why young Indian men are routinely committing gang rapes in metropolitan cities against women who are just going about their daily lives. What is the anger that motivates this level of violence? Is the sight of a young smartly-dressed educated female professional generating a sense of displacement in men? Over the past several decades, women’s rights have proliferated and they are claiming their subjectivity, asserting their identity as women as opposed to being someone’s wife, daughter or sister. And with the opening up of the market, women are more visible in the workplace. That they are entering male bastions of power has challenged the sense of superiority and entitlement of the traditional Indian male.
This idea of a woman as a fully formed human subject remains a difficult concept to embrace.
Even those who are ostensibly in favour of women’s rights such as the National Commission of Women and the Department of Women and Child Development, continue to refer to women as vulnerable objects and discuss the issue of violence against women in highly protectionist language.
Built for bias
What is required at this stage is not more protection and security, but education. The grooming of young men to have a feeling of entitlement by Indian parents breeds a sense of masculinity and male privilege. Son preference simultaneously erodes the possibility of respect for women, as girls are seen as unwanted or burdensome. Such inequalities produce the very hatred against women in the public arena that we are witnessing throughout the country. When women do not cower or display their vulnerability — thereby inviting the protection of the virile Indian male — what follows is a sense of emasculation and aggrievement on the part of these men.
More law — or calls for the death sentence — are not the answer to what is a deeply ingrained societal problem.
More law will only serve to give a sense of something being done, when in fact very little is being done. To confront the hatred that is now manifesting itself in the most egregious ways is to move forward as a society. We need to think about how we can handle women’s equality in ways that are not perceived as threatening. That demands greater responsibility on the part of parents as well as society not to raise sons in a way in which they are indoctrinated with a sense of superiority and privilege. There is also a need on the part of young men to be actively involved in their schools and communities in advocating women’s equality rights.
While these seem like long-term solutions that will do little to help the young woman who lies in a coma in Safdarjung hospital, law reform or hanging the perpetrators will not solve the problem. Law reforms in the area of rape have been taking place over three decades but they do not appear to have arrested the appalling levels of violence to which Indian women are subjected. It is time for us to recognise how we as a society are implicated in producing the very individuals who are perpetrating such heinous crimes against women, and to start taking responsibility for bringing it to an end.
(Ratna Kapur is Global Professor of Law, Jindal Global Law School, NCR)

































The rape statistics may be higher in the US. But that is because more incidents of rape are reported by women with the confidence that that justice will be done and after the dust settles, they can get back to being a useful and productive members of society as best as they can. They and their families will not have to guard this incident as a shameful secret for the rest of their lives. Instead, there are systems in place which help them (the victims) for as long as they need it. The society in general, continues to treat them with respect and allows them to lead normal lives without the sidelong glances and whispered comments. We, as Indians, need to relise that the consequences of rape do not end with the judgement of the perpetrators.
For last 2 days i have been reading truckload of articles in newspapers
and blogs...some are blaming government,police while others are busy
advocating youth education, morals etc. I agree with them but rather
than focussing these aspects we should focus on how, once after getting
out of hospital, she(victim) is going to be treated in this society
whose part we all are (including those writing articles). There will be
people commenting on her for rest of her life.so i just want to say she
should get same respect like any other daughter, sister and the tales
of this heinous crime should not remain with her for her lifetime. Its
only us who can help her to overcome this thing not the government nor
anyone one else.
The author is right in saying that the issue lies deep in the grain of
the society. This is not limited to the lower class. A case in point
is when I recently went on a beach vacation with some friends, a guy
friend of mine (very close one at that), spent hours on the beach
zooming in and clicking pictures of girls in wet shorts and t-shirts
(and even some in wet salwar kameezes - so the argument really is not
about the length of the clothes). Then he commented, "I will never let
my girlfriend wear such clothes on a beach because of men like me."
Please note that he is not a lower class illiterate, village bum, but
a post graduate managerial level corporate employee who has lived in
Mumbai all his life. But the mentality remains, the girl shall not
wear this, go there, do that etc. because men just do not comprehend
the concept of respecting a woman and her modesty. Every single girl I
have asked about this has admitted to being touched/pinched/ groped/
molested in public transport etc
This is a wonderful discussion. I want to comment about N America because many say that this happens there or that rape statistics there are higher. Many horrible things happen in N America (see first paragraph) but public gang rapes and group harrassment of women going about the city do not. Statistics may be higher due to reporting and data collection (are all the rural rapes in India reported?) Nowhere is perfect, but I am harrassed more times walking down the street in Delhi in one day than I ever have been in my entire life in N America. It's a different experience of life for women. Don't try to make it sound like it is same there as here because it belittles the problem. Also boys and girls grow up together from young in the west, so young men know how to make friends with, date, talk to, work with women. This is the biggest difference by far- the way they interact with one another. I just want to add comment because it seems an excuse (and wrong) to say "it happens everywhere"
The incident is simply disgusting at best and questioning the self is
mandatory, at least after this appalling case.
Public education in India, be it in the cities or in the villages, is
terrible. Young men, whether they're slumdogs or children of barons, if
not educated to show respect, to understand and to live with dignity,
will end up being the same. If we can't educate our children, then we
have failed in the most basic of tasks as a society.
We are talking about possibilities of changing our society down the years what about the girl who is actually currently suffering, can anything bring any justice or relief to the one who is going through hell alive? Why do we have to accept everything ?
It's not just the sight of independent, working young women that drives men to
rape. Let me point out that this crime is perpetrated very often in the rural regions
of our country as well. It's like the author says, our society is outraged not at the
fact that the poor woman or girl is being physically violated but at the "loss of
honour". Honestly, is the man carrying out such a beastly act honourable? Yet! we
think that he has lost nothing by committing this heinous crime.
And as usual, nothing is done by anyone to either address the source of the
problem or to at least make the perpetrators feel the full force of the law. It is
logical then that they go on committing such crimes. Even nurses working in
hospitals have been raped and murdered.
What sort of sick society are we to harbor routine rape, physical molestation and torture of women, foetal infanticide and our caste system? Is it a wonder that we are considered one of the most backward of people in the world?
my comment will make me sound like a class biased person but we cannot ignore that the people who committed this crime were simply uneducated slumdogs. I do not deny that anyone could have been such a criminal but the majority cases are reported from the lower strata of the society. we need to think and educate people accordingly.
i agreed with ms.kapoor that we need to address rape issues through societal values. moral values are the only tools to prevent such heinous
crimes, but other points like inferiority complex among males and not
strict punishment to the culprits are baseless. most western countries
do not have the problem with female working classes then why rape rates
in those countries are higher than ours? society cant be change in few
days, it will take centuries, till then we have only one option strict
punishment hanging till death.
Female foeticide and male-domination, especially among uneducated classes, are the reason for all this.
These things have huge and crushing consequences like these on hapless victims.
Take action now or suffer in silence.
Although everyone is talking about parenting, education and stricter laws and their enforcement, no one seems to care about role of media which influence our mind everyday. Open any Delhi edition paper and many will realize why so frequent rapes/sexual harassment in Delhi. TV, internet, magazines, newspaper be it anything, you will see one or the other picture of women in embarrassing posture. Is this the role media is expected to play? Today movies which were earlier not available for men are being watched/filmed (mms) by kids. Where are we heading? We are blaming our education system, law enforcement etc, but even in USA where these things are good, rate of such sexual offenses are high. It is time for media too to introspect its role in society, else we'll be skipping very important factor from our discussion.
The article is a bit simplistic to accuse everything on our culture
of prejudice in favor of the male species. Sid has a point. Do some
analysis of the backgrounds of those accused (not just those found
guilty - a majority get away with murder). Then see if any pattern
emerges. It is easy to theorize; hard work is needed to do anything
substantive.
I see these incidents as just tip of an iceberg. India seem to be degenerating to its lowest point. Look at the people who involve in these crimes. All born later than 1990. If these young generation in a liberalised country doesn't see a point to live in a dignified way, we should be ashamed of ourselves and we need to review the governance mechanisms we have in place. We seem to be validating Churchil's statement. When the Independence Bill was being debated in British Parliament in 1947, Winston Churchill had angrily remarked, "Power will go into the hands of rascals, rogues, and freebooters. Not a bottle of water or loaf of bread shall escape taxation; only the air will be free and the blood of these hungry millions will be on the head of Attlee." Also, the hypocrisy of Indians talking about their high culture and the reverance they show towards their women. I see 2 primary reasons: 1. Increasing Social Inequality 2. Idiotic Governance/Education/Judicial/bureaucracy Systems we have
This article very importantly, gives insight into the male psyche of
Indian society. Though Indian society accepts the need of women to
work and study outside but has shown reluctance to change their
attitude towards women. Even a small gesture in women's life (like
riding vehicle, car, wearing pants or jeans, even speaking English)is
considered as 'assertion' of power by men. A woman has to struggles
her ways the moment she steps out of her home till the time she
returns back. And the callousness of law in India is an additional
enhancer to this male psyche and on the other hand brings more misery
and struggle to women's life.
The author is right that we need to educate people. But the real education should touch upon the source of human values and principles. As Stephen Covey says in his book "Seven Habits of Highly effective people", the origin of all great values is God. Unless we bring in the education and culture centered around God and Godly principles, it is impossible to establish true morality. That’s the reason many people question why the basic moral values are there in our culture and one cannot give a convincing answer without giving reference to God and scriptures like the Bible, Gita, Quran etc.,
Without people are imbibed with higher values & principles, morality is just lack of opportunity.
It’s really a shame and the culprits have to be severely punished to set fear in others of such inhuman act.
We can do lot with courts, police etc., but these are only some superficial things which is not going to stop such activities.
Women are showcased as objects of sex pleasure in newspapers, movies, television, billboards everywhere. It is not surprising to see a news article on rape and a obscene picture side by side in the newspaper and internet. It does not require a PhD to conclude that the later is the cause of the first news. Whatever one sees, hears, reads makes a great impression in the mind and “what goes in will come out”. It is a very basic principle of human nature, which is exploited by the media & advertisement. Our sensible culture has been torn apart with the westernized media and thoughts. Unless these things are addressed and brought to practice, it is impossible to bring in sanity in the masses.
Its time men came to terms with the changing socio-economic landscape.
Rape is an extreme outburst, but each day countless young girls are made
to feel guilty for their education and independence.Its time parents who
have sons (especially only sons) woke up and realised that its no prize
or a reason to be proud of. Its amazing how mothers who are women
themselves fail to instil that respect for a woman in their sons!
I agree with Dr Kapur that how we bring up boys and girls must change before we
look to amend laws. This is relevant not only to rape, but to every kind of
harassment that women face today, whether at home, at the workplace or on the
streets. Ours is a society that makes, watches and celebrates films that star wife-
beaters, that depict ‘eve-teasing’ as harmless sport, that show rapists marrying
their victims—all without censure or censorship.
Women are viewed as mothers, sisters, wives and daughters, their task being to
perform these pigeonholed roles—most often, if not always, in a manner that
benefits and advantages men. Not until men are taught and shown (with
appropriate punishment for any transgression), at home primarily, that women are
more than the roles they perform, and to recognise and respect women as
individuals, can we even hope to bring about changes in the way women are
treated.
it starts even in the womb..if we have to give the death penalty for rape just now,
every woman and man who aids and abets an abortion of a female fetus should
also be booked for murder..
the status of women in delhi, haryana, eastern rajasthan, northern m.p, western
u.p, is simply the worst in the country. apart from the patriarchal society, women
here are as guilty of keeping their daughters and daughters-in-law in a more
subservient status compared to their male children.
ms. kapur here is absolutely right, we indians absolutely MUST get increasingly
involved in community service across all areas of society to develop sympathy,
empathy and a feeling of oneness with the other..whether 'the other' be man,
woman, rural or urban, poor or rich, same religion or different, human or non
human.
community service should also be extended to include cleaning up our rivers,
educating ourselves about polluting industries, minimising, segregating and
managing our garbage.
The argument of crisis; insecurity and fear of dilution of masculinity holds much sense. As experienced, it takes a disturbing trend when social institutions viz. marriage in particular are used as a means to "blackmail" the claim of subjectivity of a woman in place of her "acceptability". The phantasm is that the scope of a woman's life is dependent on her being within the realms of approval of the standards set by society, which is nothing but stereotypes personified as means desperate assertion. Be Fearless!
Pallavi Nayek
Supreme Court Commissioners Office
Delhi
India, and we Indians as a country, do not believe in rule of law.we only profess.we just have
to go through the texts of oath taken by elected members of parliament and state
legislatures, advocates, police personnel and various administrators and government staff!
We find very noble words and affirmations! But does anyone believes in them? Does
anybody think it is possible to put into practice the oath they have taken? There are
undoubtedly a few who believe and even try practicing, but most do not believe and even
fewer try practicing. The games we play in India for electoral and agitational politics do not
have any rules at ground level that are enforcible or enforced in the normal course.
When the whole of legislative and executive wings do not play by rules, the role and capacity
the judiciary can play becomes truncated.people always lookup to the rulers. Yathaa rajah,
thathaa praja- is something we all are aware! The other way is not true.That's when life
becomes difficult!
"crisis of indian masculinity"? seriously? they are brutes, they do not
represent an average Indian guy.. "the traditional Indian man is
reacting with violence" according to "The Hindu". If the traditional
Indian man is reacting such a way towards women, then why is India's
crime rate so low when compared to the western/ developed countries?
They are NOT traditional Indian men. The Hindu should address the issue
in a more responsible way.. a normal/traditional person will never think
about raping a woman..
We are painfully tired of such cases and the articles that come up
just during this time, again I feel it is going to be in news for a
month and then after wards we will forget about it. Politicians will
use this as another gimmick to further their purpose. The real
challenge for the girl who is still in a critical condition and her
parents who must be in deep pain at this time will begin after this
one month when they will have to fight each and every day of their
remaining life not only for getting the culprits punished but to
forget that horrific moment.
The girl is in such a condition that even if she survives what kind of a life will the country promise her? what kind of mental trauma must be her parents going through?. I am terribly shocked as a woman staying in Delhi.
A very well written article Ms. Kapoor.
First of all, very well written article. I have a few questions based on what you have written.
a. I agree that education is a solution. But what sort of education are we looking at here? I had been abused by a highly qualified Indian male.. Many of my other friends also have similar stories in their lives. We have compulsory sex education and there is not a single textbook that discriminates men and women as far as I can remember. Are we looking at education that will result in a cultural revolution? If so, what is to be taught?
b. I like that point about families taking responsibility. But how can this be ensured? There is no law enforcing this.
I completely agree with the point made by Ratna Kapur above. While
stricter laws are of course required to act as a basic deterrent, what
is really required is a change in our mindsets. As a 26 year old
woman, working in Bangalore, I encounter lewd comments and songs on my
walk back home through the roads of Indiranagar - a locality well
known for its 'poshness' - almost every single day. Auto drivers in
their union clusters, men on bikes and all that blatant staring. All I
can do is walk on in muted anger. The only reason women (and me) stop
from saying anything is because we don't want to be the victim of some
misplaced hurt male ego - i.e. another statistic as a rape or acid
attack victim. I am not an object and was not raised as one. Every
family irrespective of class, creed or religion has got to start
treating their women better. A 7000 year old glorious civilization
which respects and worships its women? Throw that ridiculous notion
into the dustbin.
I agree with your displacement theory. However, assigning this theory
to the rape syndrome is perhaps a little faulty. This is because women
have mostly displaced men in white-collared jobs and the rape
statistics suggest that the rapists or the forecasted potential rapists
belong to the lower rung of the societal structure.So the anger-theory,
if valid should have compelled men on similar parlance to undertake
rapes! It is another story that women face different, often horrifying
versions of a downgraded male ego. So the root of the issue is not even
education. Rapes are impulsive, I believe by all means. Does anyone
plan a rape? It is like a dormant desire, roused because of dearth of
other preoccupations. Simple. We need to educate these men for sure. No
second thoughts on that. But we need to compel them to look beyond
'women is a sex-object' habit. It is difficult.
All rationale human beings feel the shock of gang rape of a medical
student in a moving bus. These men are not human beings , but cruel
animals.
I don't agree with the author that severe punishment is not going to
reduce incidence of Rapes in India. In addition to teaching values and
ethics to children , they should be made to respect females as human
beings.
No mercy should be granted to these rapists and they should be
castrated and made to live a life of repentence. Public humiliation in
various parts of the country should be made compulsory so that others
will learn a lesson so that they will not think of raping anybody.
our schools and colleges must give value education so that we start
living like a decent human being.
What makes Ratna Kapur say that harsher penalties won't deter rapists?
Should we relinquish all debate to the possibility that Indian parents
will change their approach towards boys and girls? I don't see why
capital punishment should be be used against someone who violates
another human being.
I would squarely our cultural values.Not only the partiality and preference of male over feamle. The cult of violence seen in movies and the depiction of women as objects of pleasure, and measurement of"succes" in terms of money,our practice of high philsophy and low action and a general disregard of law. Add to all these, the longwinding justice-delivery system. No doubt,we need a Moral Teacher in our chaos. The Brave Heart battling for life has instilled a fear of our collosal loss in this respect.
The sense of displacement as mentioned by writer cannot be said to be a factor for the alleged crime or crimes of similar nature. I completely disagree with the writer that to stop women entering the male bastions of power men are resorting to such heinous crimes. As said by the writer that grooming of young men may be a factor that needs to be addressed and corrected. I am not sure how? But as an individual and as a society as whole we need to take collective effort to stop such crimes. For that to happen strict laws, educating each and everyone to respect dignity of women, etc. needs to be given more emphasis.
Thank you Ms. Kapur! Your article is the only sane voice I have heard amidst this chaotic blame game amongst politicians. I have been studying patriarchal cultures for quite sometime now, especially violence against women (particularly gang rape). I still have a difficult time wrapping my mind around the violence that is perpetrated against women in almost all patriarchal societies. While some say it is a sexual crime, to me it remains a crime of violence and control. It is disparaging to see the the violence Indian women endures in their lifetimes, where she is hailed as "sita" to sacrifice and suffer to be considered an "ideal wife, mother, and daugther" but only to serve men. Until, we can create a just and equal society for men and women, these incidents will keep happening, whether in form of sati, dowry deaths, rape, molestation, domestic violence, or murder. They are all hate crimes, it is about time we see them for what they are.
Stringent punishment for the rapists may not by itself prevent such incidents in future. However, it is very much a part of the steps to be taken to reduce the number of such cruel episodes. It is too far-fetched to argue that cleaners and driver of a bus feel "threatened", "emasculated" or "aggrieved" by upward mobility or 'trespass into male bastions of power' by a girl student. It is an instance of base lust. Condign and immediate punishment is essential.Entire nation is justly outraged. This is among the rarest of rare cases calling for capital punishment.
I completely agree with Ratna that change in men's attitude is required
so as to deal with this deeply rooted problem. However at the same time stricter laws and more importantly their enforcement is must to avoid
such ignominies in future. Fear of law and punishment is required so
that perpetrator of any crime thinks twice before committing any heinous
act.
While it is true that the sense of insecurity generated by the growing
assertiveness of women in arenas previously untouched by her is a
cause for rape, this does not adequately explain other kinds of sexual
violence against women. There are instances of rape of minors by
fathers and uncles, where the perpetrators of violence becomes a
familiar familial figure. The point is that there are different kinds
of rape and to address these, a single law or rule would be
insufficient. What is required here, as mentioned in the article, is
for the society to advance together as an educated entity and
individuals socialized into spaces that are not driven by superior
patriarchal and masculine notions of power and identity. The role of
women, as mothers, teaches and elders educating women and girls to
exist in a space that is as much theirs as it is men's is also
extremely important.
we are dealing with uneducated men who after seeing cheap movies projecting
women as sex symbols and meant for entertaining men with vulgar body movement
they think and see normal regular working women as entertainment pieces and try to molest them no amount of education is going to change them they are not normal
and educated people who can be taught right and wrong. India has to start cleaning up the dirty society with sick mentality and try to control the population before even thinking of changing the mentality of people .
While agreeing with the views of the writer to a certain extent, the emphasis need to be not just on education but the system of education we follow.Is our education capable of molding a citizen to suit the society.The answer is a firm no.We only impart in children bits and pieces of information (not knowledge) so that the individual is capable of competing in the job market.We fail to inculcate in them values as an individual, nor is he/she motivated by the grown ups any more as most of his teachers and elders are not role models either.Black money, corruption ,unfair means ,lies and even small thefts are acceptable to the majority and children can't be exceptions.An overhaul of the entire system of education in the length and breadth of the country is to be made with the active participation of educationalists philanthropists and all else who matter.Navodaya Schools in every village is to be considered for every state.Fellow feeling is more and gender bias less in these schools.
Article hits the nail on its head. This is not just an isolated issue. The root cause is systematic. If rape is the the worst outcome of the issue we have in our society, the symptoms are reflected everyday in our lives. How many families do we see around us where son is given priority over daughter, wifes being physically abused, daughters' choices being suppressed. All these will automatically lead young men to think they are entitled. Women in our society mostly end up being objects. They are respected as human beings. We need change from grass roots level.
I agree with the author wholeheartedly.
the happening in delhi was horrific.i support the author's view that women's achievement in every field is an eye sore for the male.
worse still is the double standard of the vulnerable male. his mother,sister and daughter are always great for whatever they are.it is only the other women who are the eye sore.the position of the wife depends on how dumb she is.if she expresses her opinion she is behaving like another husband.if she expects her husband to share the housework his lifespan will come down. if she earns more than the husband it should never be expressed in thought word or action.when well educated men have such a mindset are tutored by their parents to that effect what will be the impact on society despite all the efforts for empowerment.like tha achille's heel the vulnerability of sex is to be focussed upon strongly and swiftly to avoid recurrence of such rude acts. why not propagate the idea of matriarchal society as is done in kerala.
The threat to masculinity as probably imagined by the perpetrators could only be one
of the reasons for this heinous crime. Appalling living conditions like those exist in slums (chawls ) where there is total lack of privacy, apathy of partners, extreme suppression of sexuality as it exists in some societies, and a total lack of discipline and disrespect towards law and order in an anarchic feudal and political atmosphere are some of the other reasons to be inquired into by the sociologists and law and order administrators.
We don't have to go far, just a look at today's cinema and television to find, perhaps, the main causative factor. Day in and out, women have been reduced to sex toys to satiate the lecherousness of men. From shaving cream to shampoos to anything you name it, women's sexuality is used and abused. Cinema, be it Bollywood or Hollywood, the status of women is reduced to coquettes. What else can you expect from men, be they young or old, exposed to such widespread and sustained incitement? It is the basic action-reaction principle. Many tend to disagree and continue denial whenever such causes are opined. despite all the education, equality and policing, America has perhaps the largest incidences of rape and crimes and women. We can take some lessons from it. The police can't protect you all the time, it is up to us and our women to ensure the safety of our women.
It is high time to stop projecting women as sex toys while the males are taught to honor women as fellow human beings.
Rightly said! In our society boys are hardly brought up with rules and
restrictions. In the same house, a girl child is taught all kinds of
manners, rules, how to behave in a society, how to be dressed etc. But
a boy is hardly told of such things. This itself gives a sense of
superiority to men. What is more saddening is it is considered the
responsibility of a women to do her bit to protect herself because it
is assumed that its in the nature of a man to be easily attracted. But
why should a man be given such privileges. Instead why are not boys
taught from childhood to respect women who are also as human as them.
Ratna, I agree completely with your viewpoint. Rape is not about
uncontrollable lust, rape results from a need to dominate a woman or
rather to keep her subjugated. And this mentality is prevalent almost
everywhere in the country- many Indian males can't stand a woman being
independent and successful. They believe that the modern Indian woman
has forgotten her rightful 'place in the society' and that they need
to be punished. The problem of perceived male dominance is an endemic
problem and the main cause of that is the poor upbringing of male
children by the Indian parents. Instead of teaching our children to
'Man up' or 'To be a man',can we please teach them to 'Respect a
woman'? Women who suffer abuse by their husbands but still stick on to
the marriage for the sake of the child - think what lessons you are
giving to your son- you are teaching him that its okay to get away
after disrespecting a woman. The buck has to stop somewhere and for
me,it stops at the mother of a male child.
Dear author, in my opinion, your assessment is idealistic and completely out of touch with reality. There's no denying that we as a society are deeply patriarchal having scant respect for dignity and rights of women folk. However this mindset cannot change by itself or by calling for a change. Law and Order has always been the Achilles' heel of the country. Poor implementation is responsible for everything from riots to rapes to corruption. And improving this aspect is the only way things can change.
Whatever you said is right. But i believe, there should also be some
stringent measures which are to be taken against rapists. It is time
that the Government had come up with a law strict enough to discourage
people with such dirty intentions. At times, moral values don't work for
everyone. You can't help it.
Though societal reasons are important the reasoning that it is the sense
of displacement that drives men to rape appears flawed as generally it
is men from the lower strata of society who are offenders and victims
are from higher strata. The change of values and living styles spawned
by the new economy may explain the spurt in such cases in a place like
Delhi where the rich flaunt their newly acquired wealth in a vulgar
manner.
Fast and deterrent punishment and effective surveillance are definitely
important in containing the menace.A system for alert from the mobile
to the police can be put in place easily.
I agree that upbringing sons make a lot of difference in their perception of women. The writer has rightly pointed out that it is a long process and we can see the change after a generation or two. In the meantime ,I feel death penalty and punishment immediately will deter from others committing the crime. Men who rape feel inferior to women achievers.
This is one way of showing their supremacy. A modern working women irritates them. I agree. But capital punishment and widely publicising it will definitely act as a deterrent.
Miss Kapur, Being a law professor you should have done more advocacy for making and following a stringent and strict laws. Just assuming or saying that the society within itself needs to be changed will not solve the problem either. If that would have been the case then there would have been no requirement of making laws. You should be talking more about the flaws in the laws and about its strict regulation. Unless until laws will not be regulated and will not be strict, no one is going to follow it. Laws should be made to instill that kind of fear in a person so that he would think thousand times before breaking it and in my opinion the punishment should indeed be a execution or even worst like castration of the culprit. Then one will witness how effectively the society gets reformed.
fast trial and even hanging is not enough to create a fear gainst rape or other crimes. Too many time for too long people have gotten by specially the rich and powerful. They do not get punished and therefore others follow. M M Singh is too soft as a PM and Sonia Gandhi seems to be same.
The culprits should be beaten to death in public.
And all MLAs and Mps who misuse their power should must go thru a fast trial and double the punished allowed by law.
Ratna, I do think you have presented a very causal way of looking at
this crisis. The argument that women entering men's space make them
retort to violence is compelling. Also the argument of bias - male
supremacy ingrained in our social psyche - is a valid one.
But I noted that you say law enforcement has been going on for 30 years and has had no effect - which makes you argue that law enforcement will do little to alleviate the situation. If true, it would make sense but could you guide me to the facts which show that there have been reforms for 30 years and they show no effect?
Also, as I have noted in various other situations, this crisis must be a continuation of some historic flow. Do you have any insights into it? Do you see a global pattern in women rights violations? Furthermore, is the argument of "North is worse for women than south" valid? Is there data to prove it? And if yes, can you accommodate that piece of information in your argument and tell me where it goes?
I could not agree with Dr Kapur more. The rape of women begins when a
young boy is indulged to excess by a doting family. It begins when the
daughter is called upon to help in the kitchen whereas the son walks
away after a meal. Rape begins with the differential treatment we give
to our sons and daughters.
Male preference is so deeply ingrained in us that we have to be
vigilant all the time. Even those of us who strongly believe in
treating both son and daughter alike sometimes fail the test. As a
child, my daughter once said, "Do you realise you give me more
housework than you do _____?" naming my son.
Unfortunately, all of us will now begin to keep our daughters at home
after dark and fall apart with worry if she is late. But rape does not
see the time of the day. For it begins in the mind.
Further, I want acid attacks, dowry deaths and rape to have very
stringent punishment, akin to murder.
For now, though, my heart and thoughts are with the young couple there
in Delhi.
There are several other factors too. We are a prudish society, we restrict intermingling of genders right from school, which results in women being looked upon as mere objects. Yet, our movies are replete with suggestions of sexuality, around how women are wooed, through item numbers and worse. This dichotomy is absurd.
When all of this is combined with values derived from feral male gangs, of machismo, and power, we have a cocktail, which makes it so unsafe in many parts of India.
Is it that this new-found independence that generates anger? Or is it a replay of village dynamics where a women on her way to the farm was easy prey to the young lords of the area? Isn't it the same scenario albeit in a urban setting? Aren't these boys with new found wealth and a sense of power. Because Rape is not about sex. Rape is about Power.
I have lived my life in Delhi with the eve-teasing and the daily sense of fear. Constant Fear. If a strong Mayor in New York could clean up the city and make it safe for its residents, it be done in Delhi too. It needs to be done. NOW!
'The crisis of Indian masculinity' depicted in the article is a compelling insight as a reason for rape... There is, of course, the need for checking this sense of
displacement in Indian men's mind.
However, the idea and concern for changing the entire social 'mentality', ingrained with heinous perversity and a parochial, false sense of honour, is not only hard to realize but impossible, atleast in the context of complex Indian social order....
My comment is having a bad sense of pessimism, but it is a sad reality that "the mentalities hardly change..."
The only way to deal with this is to instill FEAR -- fear of the highest order: death or castration -- so that the would-be perpetrators will have some sense about the repercussions...(although they are senseless or insensitive)
The society has not been yet educated about basic notions of right & wrong, justice, equality... It would be utopian to consider undertaking a mission to 'educate' the people who just cannot be educated...
I was aghast to read the morning news, and it refuses to go off my mind. Even animals are better than such men. I agree with Prof Kapur that simply stricter laws and vigilance is unlikely to solve the problem. Education is the answer, but for whom ? The next generation, which is likely to take a long time. What, until then? What about all those sick-animals who have surpassed the age of education, those who firmly believe that women are objects of pleasure? It may sound controversial, but I think a quick remedy is only by intimidation. A public beating by police or the family of the victim, telecast live on the nation, will serve the purpose. It is likely to go so deep into the psyche, that it WILL act as a deterrent. Even a death sentence, which goes from court to court and finally to the already long list of clemency with the president, will not do. As long as these animals do not SEE what can happen as a result, they won't stop.
I agree. We create an atmosphere to cultivate rapists. All those acts which mock women, treat them as a different species, consider them a vulnerability actually add to the possibility of creation of future rapists as men tend to consider themselves superior.
Women is too much objectified. From Ads, Print Media, Hoardings, Movies, TV Serials.. everywhere nudity and sensual personification is rampant. This Does not make a person a rapist in one day but definitely lower his self restraint and tolerance for the females.
Its surprising that sometimes women organization themselves support and fight for this personification. I have always wondered why society wants a girl to be pretty, charming, less clad, colorful etc. while it is good for a male to be strong, plain and black and white. As long as we keep stereotyping women to appear appeasing to men, we will stay backward and hostage by gender disparity which finally culminated to such heinous crimes.
Ratna Kapur's analysis is as usual, lucid and well timed
and close to the root cause.The education is the maker and molder of
future generation of any country and our education system must be
changed to incorporate the changing structure and fabric of society.
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