Deprived of work and education opportunities, spouses of U.S. work visa holders often find themselves descending into ill health and low self-esteem
To better understand the impact of the U.S.’ H-4 visa, the non-working visa given to the spouse of a work-authorised H-1B visa holder, The Hindu conducted a limited survey via a Facebook page that is a portal for H-4 visa holders. Along with the administrator of that page, Rashi Bhatnagar, who is herself on an H-4 visa, respondents were asked about the circumstances they found themselves in after they arrived in the U.S.
The responses not only hinted at a wide range of personal and health setbacks for female Indian H-4 visa holders but also testified to this visa’s impact on those from other nations, grown children of H-4 visa holders and, in some rare cases, male H-4 visa holders.
Take the case of Kathy, who used to be Senior Principal at a firm in the United Kingdom. After she and her children moved to the U.S. to join her husband, they had to put their oldest daughter through college with absolutely no access to financial aid because they were not permanent citizens of the U.S.
To make matters worse, when her daughter finished college she found herself, like her mother, stuck at home and unable to earn a living using the skills acquired at university. “She sits in her room all day, on her own,” Kathy worried, adding that her daughter had few friends and got very depressed.
Kathy herself fared poorly and it took a drastic toll on her health. Initially she and her daughters had private health insurance, but after she was diagnosed with a pineocytoma, or non-malignant brain tumour, she was dropped from her insurance. Apart from the compelling case that such instances make for reform of the H-4 visa restrictions, they underscore the need for the sort of health insurance reform that President Barack Obama has pushed through. As for Kathy, she and her daughter have no health insurance, no prospect of working and face a daily routine of social isolation and despondence.
Another striking case that the survey revealed was of Rahul, a male H-4 visa holder who followed his IT-professional wife to the U.S. For him, too, the stark reality of U.S. employers’ unwillingness to sponsor an H-1B struck home after many months of a frustrating job search. Cut off from friends and family and no longer the sociable, buoyant person he used to be, Rahul turned to alcohol — at a heavy cost. Caught in a downward spiral of depression, he attempted suicide several times. “I hurt myself very badly during one of these attempts and had to be hospitalised after calling 911,” he said. However, he showed resilience and tried to bounce back from that low point. He returned to India to change his field from sales and marketing and gain a greater IT focus. He even found work in a U.S. firm’s India office in the hope that the firm would apply for a work visa for him.
“Unfortunately the recession hit in 2008 and the company did not do well,” said Rahul. He had to resign himself to the prospect of staying on in India and battling the spectre of alcoholism that had arisen once again, not to mention thoughts of depression and suicide. Meanwhile, his wife and three-year-old child live out their lives in the U.S. without him.
Among most respondents to the Facebook survey, health issues arising from depression and a sense of hopelessness appeared to be common. One respondent, Joyita, said she was constantly visiting neurologists and physical therapists for treatments related to psychological turmoil “which have their roots in H-4 visa’s work restrictions”.
Even where physical symptoms were absent a sense of utter despair replaced the initial optimism that these spouses of H-1B workers had felt. Shauravi, for example, felt that she could not afford an MBA or other professional degree given the lack of funding opportunities. But the alternative, to “be at home for whole day without working and be very dependent to my husband ... has made me very weak just thinking about it”.
Another respondent, Ketaki, worried that the only degree she could afford was of no interest to her and lack of friends and complete dependence on her husband in a new environment had made her lose her self-confidence. Similarly Lavanya, who left a senior post in the Indian government, found herself struggling to keep up her self-esteem when she could not find any job, not even one that required far lower skill levels than those she possessed.
For several survey respondents their vulnerability had led to abuse within the marriage, in some cases resulting in complete familial breakdown. Priya told The Hindu that after suffering numerous beatings by her husband, she managed to file a police complaint and had him arrested. However, because as an H-4 spouse she had no access to bank accounts and other paperwork — all of which were controlled by her husband — she was unable to afford an attorney to fight the case. She was left praying for a denial of visa renewal for her husband for she had no other means to reach out to her family back in India.
A similar case was Poorvi who, despite overcoming financial hurdles and completing a U.S. academic degree, faced marital trouble, loneliness and spousal abuse that ultimately led to divorce.
The severity of personal problems faced by individuals in this position begs the question of why the spouses of H-1B, I, and a range of other visa holders have been denied the right to work, while L-1 visa holders’ spouses were granted the right some time ago,
Sheela Murthy, an expert on immigration law, told The Hindu that there had occasionally been talk in official circles about granting H-4 visa holders the right to work, but “that was before the economy tanked”. Apart from the sheer political pressure that any government would face if it tries to push through such a reform, it could also lead to some uncomfortable questions as to why the spouses of other visa holders — including the A, B, C, D, G, and F visas — could not similarly be given the right to work .
The H-4 case may be a “strong but not a winning argument”, said Ms. Murthy, noting that another fact pertinent to this case was that India ranks among the top 10 nationalities of illegal immigrants in the U.S.
On lobbying the White House and Capitol Hill for relaxing the work restrictions, she said: “I do not think we have been able to make the case clearly and strongly, with statistics and numbers, and have a very limited and strong message, to take up the drumbeat that gets both Houses of Congress on board.” There was still something missing in the strategy and articulation, she suggested.
In the end there is a complex argument to be made that must consider all of the difficult questions relating to the politics of post-recession unemployment, the plight of spouses of other visa holders, and the broader context of comprehensive immigration reform and illegal immigration.
Yet even as the weight of these unanswered questions stalls progress on H-4 visa reform, thousands of individuals in this category will continue to live with their broken dreams.
(Concluded)
Keywords: US visa restrictions, H-4 spouses, Indian women in America, H1-B visa, H-4 visa, non-immigrant visas, green card, job market in US, work restrictions, Dark Side of Migration





@kiran maddu I fully agree with you clear and logical presentation,
especially you are spot on observation of US a "great nation was
built with some rules and regulations". On the other hand in India
most of us are at the mercies of horrible leaders for whom what
matters most is money,caste, religion, language so on and devil take
the rules. And for many parents is statement of fashion to say their
wards are in US and they will work towards achieving this dubious distinction come hell or high water. The society considers it a height of humiliation for any one to be back to India for what ever
reasons.
Wouldn't it be better for these folks at Stay in India - than cry about an "unjust" system in the USA?
It may be germane to point out that this article highlights social issues which afflict immigrants, however the comments by the Radiologist in training deserve a reply.Mr. Radiologist who prefers to share both his ignorance on the human condition, his obvious lack of compassion and his poor intelligence with the world at large, and to boot has buttressed his obvious lack of empathy with arrogance. I am curious, where exactly did you study medicine and which hospital in the US do you train at? Pray tell, so all right thinking individuals can avoid the establishment like a plague. For the rest of the commentators who are apparently humored by the article: great for you guys that you had an easy path to a 'green card' and thanks for sharing your penchant for laughing at others folks misfortunes.
For 'The Hindu' kudos for highlighting the travails of living in the 'promised land'.
This article hit the nail on its head in more than one occasion. There was a time when US was an attractive place for software professionals. With the QoS and monetary parameters of being a software professional much better in India, this is just a lost cause what with the US economy itself facing huge uncertainties. I have seen myself a lot of talented spouses wasting away their most productive phase of their lives sitting, doing nothing at home. I live in US now, but if I had happened to graduate a few years after i had, i'd probably never have stepped outside of India except for a few sojourns.
@kiran - no need to be defensive here. The author has put forth realities of life - life is not rosy, no matter where. Your life situation may be different now and you probably do not understand. US is again governed by humans so you should give your picture of perfectness in US a rest. I take US as one long vacation and I cannot wait to get back home.. :)
Completely biased and baseless article. H1-B has the path to migrate as
a permanent resident.. but of course, with a waiting period. When H1-B
holder gets EAD/permanent resident (green card) their spouse can also
get EAD/green card. The average time for one to get EAD/green card
varies and it is typically around 1 to 4 years. One has to understand
the american values on immigration for fully understanding this process.
once you understand you could able to appreciate the process and value
of it.
Is it right to go to a new land and demand the right to prosperity, when the citizens of the land are wilting in poverty and despair? Would we allow the same in India? Being a woman and having had to move to a new country after my marriage, leaving behind my career, friends and family, I too went into despair initially, but over the time, with the support of my husband I realized its dumb to let our lives sag into bouts of depression and illhealth.. It is difficult to step back from a promising career and active social life.. But its smarter to find ways to kick out of the “Loser feeling”.. Primarily get out of your home and talk to people.. Social isolation is a big disease.. Join some volunteer group, local activity club, community college, go exercise, clean up your lawn, network with ur husbands friends wives or have kids (u are totally busy and enjoy with your children) .If none of this works out, go back to your home town.. No money can replace happiness and Peace
Read the forms and know the rules before migrating. Ignorance of law is
not an excuse. Why does the author support these people?
This article is no better than the Sunday one. It hypes a few extreme experiences and makes it seem the norm. In our experience, a majority of H1B couples lead a fulfilling life - enjoy the quality of life that the US offers, take care of young children within the protection of the home, pursue higher education, aspire for H1B positions and eventually make the transition to a full career. What Obama closed were violations of the US immigration policy by many Indian visa holders and body shopping companies - working on travel visas, obtaining H1B visas by paying body shoppers without a valid position - things that hurt the US local employees. Please don't purvey a minority experience as a common problem. Each of the stories here are heartbreaking, but the average experience is nowhere close to this. It makes us look bad in more ways than one - we not only enter and accept their opportunities, knowing the full limitations of the visa- but complain hard when it gets a little difficult
I believe this article presses the panic button unnecessarily. It's not
that US has invited all these people and left them unemployed. Whoever
comes here know what is in store for them. If they complain then why do
they stay here in US. They can catch the next flight to home. Every
country has its own visa terms. They obviously have to protect their own
citizens. US is no different. So this article doesn't make sense to me.
Hi Kiran,
I suppose you are not married. Think from a different angle, if possible. Guys (in most cases) have jobs and they will be happy. The spouses who are at home. The Hindu is talking about them. They don't go back because of many reasons - Husband doesn't allow, money, ego, comfort life. But there will be some sense of missing.
Once you get married and have kids, then you will get that insecurity feeling. Not now. But The Hindu should have published more data. In percentages. Than some random stories. Yes these might be worse scenarios, but I like to know the exact %.
Hi John, We come to US because of USD-INR conversion. A lowest paid job in US is a very high paid job in India. So people come there for money, so that they can come back and enjoy here. But they never come back and hence the problem starts!
US is a hostile place for people who don't have work and also the aged. These people should never go to US. Youngsters who happily follow their spouses to the US thinking it is a magical place are in for trouble. Parents who also are eager to send their kids off to the US should also think about it. Other than a bragging point back home it is a tough life out there if you don't have work and if you don't have health insurance. Do not get carried away by Hollywood films where everything looks great. The reality is not so glamorous.
To Kiran Maddu, Its related to H4 folks sitting at home in USA and in great depression and their worries but not H1s who enjoy their work etc. It looks like you are bachelor and you did not know much of USA. Many of Americans friends asked this question? We are in great bedts and you Indians come here for a living is so tragic. So you can imagine how a spouse of H1(highly skilled labor) suffer with all mental and other issues is what HINDU highlighted or explored. Many of my friends wives H4 expressed the same depression probably you or some H1 are lucky do not know anything in USA except house, office etc. If you drive cross country and work in many states, you will understand how life sucks here.
Very immature and illogical article,in fact argument.No need of deep
analysis,but once you left your home/nation,why the heck you are
comparing your situation with that at home,its insane.I am a
radiologist from India, pursuing my career,i am on H1 with 50k salary
and i am getting trained in this amazing land since 2 years and if i
have to reach my goal i need another 3 years of training and i may not
even get an option from next year on wards, and this is all heights of
uncertainty.I can never say this as struggle or insecurity, because i
chose it.This great nation was built with some rules and regulations
and its not by mercy of some one.So when you write an article you
should know how this nation is built.I do not want to discuss on the
proven facts about USA,but my question is how many of them(depressed
according to you) are ready to go back/ how many of them are ready to
face the hurdles to settle here.If one understands life here,not only
career, there are million things to do.
I read both the articles and had a hearty laugh.
#1. All these 'victims' walked into H-4 status fully aware of the rules
#2. H-4 spouses (which includes men too who find it even harder thanks to Indian pride) expect a backdoor to the employment - already they have a backdoor in the GreenCard process. One reason for the fake-marriage markets and scams
#3. Expecting US to honor the lesser degree is laughable at the least. Moreover the doctors (where US doctors spend 8 years in school before residency) are the worst. There is a growing anger against them. Wait for that to explode soon. Especially the BDS spouses.
One notices that L-1 visa has better rights. And now-a-days, there are more L-1 visa holders (from major companies who kind of guarantee that these folks will return back) where as H-1 holders have the intent of migrating.
Compared to these women, there are hundreds of thousands who are waiting to unite with their family. US should focus on them than these cry babies.
I feel sorry for these people. As, I really do not understand why they want to come here and struggle so much when they can have better life, close to family and better living standards in India. People living here in US know how difficult the life is and I do not understand.
I am trying to see whether I can get a better position and growth opportunities in India living in US as I have been stuck without any prospects of growth for the last 15 years and here people are wanting to come to US. It is sad.
While it does put them in a vulnerable place,one has to understand that they chose this predicament. Yes,graduate studies are expensive, running a single-income home is difficult and staying at home is barely stimulating. But in choosing to move to US on dependent visas, they have volunteered to give up on studying/working and cannot cry foul. If anything, the young women should be educated about their prospects while on H4 and what they stand to lose. One can argue that US should allow spouses on H4 to work,but it has no obligation to, particularly since it chooses to protect the native workforce. Then there is always the hard way, enter US as a student or on H-1 visa.
The injury on your hand does not require a mirror to reflect the intensity.If you enter the kitchen of another household,you have to eat what is provided or cook your food with the available ingredients.
US Immigration rules are crystal clear.It is the lust for money and care free undisturbed life that that create over ambition and subsequent disappointment.One has to reap what is sown.
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