It is true that in families where both the husband and wife work, cooking becomes a laborious task, unless both share the responsibility (“For a great marriage, men must cook,” Open Page, June 15). As a senior citizen, I recollect the early days of my marriage when my wife and I were working as teachers. Though I was interested in cooking, it was a question of prestige for my wife to allow me into the kitchen. I had to eat whatever she liked and cooked. But now, after ten years of retirement, I have to cook my own food as my wife has to stay with my married son in Bangalore. But I really enjoy cooking.
Palayamkottai, Tamil Nadu
I disagree with the author’s suggestion. It is foolhardy to think that equal participation by men in the kitchen would suddenly transform a marriage. To live happily, a couple must come to an understanding about their personal strengths and weaknesses. For example, while many women are organised, men are better at repairing broken things and handling finances. Nowadays, many marriages break up because neither side believes in making compromises. A little compassion, a give-and-take attitude, and appreciation towards each other will go a long way in building a strong relationship.