Mastering the art of walking on water
EVER COME across people who seem to be supremely in control of their lives and don't bat an eyelid when trouble or setbacks hit them? One can only wonder and admire their stoicism. They seem to have honed this ability to a fine art. Well, here's an inside look at the secret of their success.
Perceptions matter
For veteran problem solvers, any problem is not worth the effort of losing sleep. They are confident that every problem has a lifespan. So they spend the better part of their time looking for solutions rather than giving in to waves of anxious fretting.
Compartmentalise
Some of us seem genetically programmed to compartmentalise and categorise things and some of us aren't. But what most expert problem solvers acquire and master is the art of recognising the minor hassles from the major ones. They know what to worry about and what to take coolly either way they face the issue head on and take them on without breaking step. For major hassles, the ace up their sleeves is to stay emotionally detached from the issue and carrying on as if nothing has happened. They typically either sleep over the problem or let the problem itself work its way out.
Independence of thought?
People who have been independent all their lives are accustomed to making their own decisions. They also learn to depend on their judgement and develop the knack of solving troublesome issues on their own. They learn to trust and depend on themselves as the ultimate source of happiness.
Dealing with the overwhelm factor
The unruffled sort also knows about the lifecycle of a problem - the calm, the bloom, and the bursting of the bubble. Every problem or issue when it strikes you is new and seems impossible to face. This makes it easy to let it overwhelm you. Instead of giving in, deal with the problem in small bits. This minimises knee-jerk reactions and avoids short-term patches to problems.
Looking within
Veteran problem solvers know that attaining nirvana is an ongoing journey! They learn from history and past mistakes.
Moving on
Although it may sound cold-blooded, that's the way life is lived. You move on. The smart ones condition themselves to switch over and make new beginnings as soon as recovery time permits them.
Reclaim life
Problem solvers are aware of how traps are laid and stay away from the bait - the deadly three - denial, rebound and depression. Practice keeping them at bay, whenever you feel any residual feelings such as anger, hurt, resentment or depression. Work at accepting the situation, and treat them as natural reactions in the process of healing.
SAMYUKTA KODA
samyukta.hyd@cnkonline.com
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