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At the receiving end
NOW THAT you have handed in your latest and most difficult project with flying colours be prepared for some fulsome compliments coming your way. But here comes the real test. Are you the kind who resembles a tomato when someone puts in a kindly word? Will you be thrown off track or keep gushing about your achievement to all and sundry? There are many of us who cannot accept a compliment gracefully. We either squirm in embarrassment or try to brush the effort off as unworthy. Paying and receiving compliments is an art. If not done the proper way, it appears gauche. Compliments are often, ironically, not received with the grace they deserve. At some point in our careers we come to realise that an effective feedback can produce the most desirable results. But while we may lend a patient ear to complaints, take criticism in our stride, we rarely handle compliments with care.
Here's a take on doing it right!
You do not have to rattle your brains to come up with an ingenious way to receive a compliment. Just a simple `thank you' accompanied with a smile will suffice.
Never underplay compliments or respond with lines like, "It's nothing; anyone could have done the same". This will convey the message that (a) you are an ungraceful boor or (b) the job you're being complimented for is really not very remarkable!
If you feel that a team member also deserves to share the credit then do not hesitate to include him/her.
Don't let all that adulation go to your head. Do you shout from the rooftops when you are criticised? Remain poised and balanced.
Laurels do not come without a price; jealousy is one of them. Do not let it alloy your moment of joy. Appreciation tinged with sarcasm can safely be ignored.
Never confuse flattery with compliments. Learn to discern a sincere remark.
When someone posts a congratulatory note or sends across a mail, ensure that you acknowledge it.
Revel in the feel good emotion but don't cling to it. Move on!
Let your attitude spell simplicity, nicety and sincerity and you will keep the bouquets coming your way always!
RL SAILAJA
sailaja.hyd@cnkonline.com
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