Looking for a bridge over troubled water? Krithvi Shyam, our young psychologist, addresses your worst anxieties.
I have written all the college entrance exams and cleared them but not the one I desired the most: JEE mains. I worked for it but still couldn’t clear it. For the past few days I am always in a depressed mood. My family encourages me but I feel very guilty that I couldn’t do even this to make them happy. My BITSAT exam is nearing and I doubt if I can clear this especially after my dismal JEE results. - Self-Doubter
I completely agree. It just really sucks when you know that you can’t attend your dream institute and that there’s nothing you can do about it anymore. However, when you say, “I couldn’t do at least this” for your parents, it sounds as if you’re assuming that competing with thousands of other equally motivated students for an engineering seat is a walk in the park. It’s not. Your parents, along with every other parent in this great nation of entrance exams, know how difficult it is to crack these tests, so don’t feel guilty about your performance.
Anyway, let’s look at the bright side. Luckily for you, India is equipped with more than enough other engineering colleges which, while not in the same league as your dream colleges, are still pretty darn good. So even if your scores on the JEE/BITSAT send you plummeting off a cliff, there will be safety-net institutes patiently waiting to catch you.
With this in mind, treat your BITS exam like a second chance, and do your best. If you clear it, time to eat all the junk food you can lay your hands on, and go on a holiday, because you’ve earned it. If you don’t clear it, time to eat all the junk food you can lay your hands on and go on a holiday, because you need to cut yourself some slack.