Sigh! What did I ever see in him? A question most of us ask ourselves when we're in a relationship that doesn't give us what we want. Growing up listening to fairytales like Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty and Snow White, women no doubt carry the notion that someday, their Prince Charming is going to come and sweep them off their feet. Some even think they've found Prince Charming, but have they really? It's time to free ourselves from illusionsand face the complications of a modern day relationship.
Read signs
When Amrita Sharma finds more and more women friends confiding their relationship secrets with her— their fears and insecurities, squabbles and extra marital affairs, she endeavours to tell us how to read the signs of a failing relationship and offers friendly tips on finding the right guy. The title, cover art and red edged paper of the book couldn't be more apt, for it makes us wonder why we get into the relationships we do, why some survive the tempest and why some of them disintegrate after a while, symbolising both heartache and love.
Do opposites really attract? Don't you ever wonder what makes a relationship last? Most people would say trust, love and time with each other, but how many realise communication is also as vital? No two people are the same, no matter how many habits of theirs are similar. Conflicts do arise every now and then and instead of pushing them under the rug, it's wiser to deal with them when they come.
Addressing issues like a woman's choice, a man's commitment phobia, inconsideration, flirting, possessiveness, violation of privacy, breaking up and past relationships among other topics, Amrita outlines with several anecdotes how some women make or break their relationships, making the book a guide to the perfect love life. Decoding relationships, the book concludes with a lengthy questionnaire for women to assess where they stand in their relationships.
Present day relationships are very fragile and vulnerablem and it's our choices that make them work for us. They would, only when we realise we want them to work.
What we're willing to give and take and how much we're willing to let go and accept is up to us. And through this roller coaster ride, we will have our share of ups and downs, but none of it will matter when we find the missing piece that fits.
Soulmates are people who bring out the best in you. They are not perfect but are always perfect for you. They complete you...
Shweta is a third year B.Sc. ISM student of M.O.P. Vaishnav College For Women
Title : What did I ever see in him
Author : Amrita Sharma
Publisher : Penguin India
Price : Rs. 150
